Leslyn's Lovely Life: The Priorities

Wednesday, October 16, 2013

The Priorities

Over the past few weeks, I've been feeling very convicted about something, and I thought I would share.

Since school started, I've gotten into a routine of not putting much effort into my home life. Although DJ and I weren't having issues, I wasn't being very intentional with our relationship. On most nights, I would get home from work, we would eat dinner together, and then I would do my own thing (watch Netflix in our room) while he did other things (read reddit/watch vines/watch youtube videos in the office or living room). It wasn't that we were trying to avoid each other or anything, we just got into this routine. This went on for about a month and a half. Suddenly, I realized that I missed my husband... the guy who was just down the hall. However, I didn't really know how to address it.

We went to church a few weeks ago, and they started a series called "No Place Like Home". In the bulletin, they added a 30 day challenge for families. As I was reading through the list, I realized that this was the perfect opportunity for me to bring up my concern to DJ. And when I did, he agreed with me 100%. We needed to change things up, because we didn't want to get to the point where we got used to not doing things together, and eventually put our marriage in a compromising position. We didn't want to forget how much we really need each other.

We decided that we were going to be more intentional in our marriage- instead of watching a movie because we couldn't think of anything else to do, we turned movie night into a fun event- where we experiment with different snacks to enjoy while we watch the movie. Or we would sit down together and research fun things that we could add to our house. We started walking our dogs together. The list goes on and on and on. And you know what happened?

We started appreciating each other so much more than we used to. We enjoyed each other's company more than ever. It was wonderful. And I don't miss watching Netflix as much as I thought I would.

So let me challenge you- what are your priorities right now? How intentional are you in your relationships? If things aren't where they're supposed to be, try a different approach- you will be surprised at how fulfilling it is.

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holli said...

Its so easy to get into routines and i'm proud of yall for breaking that and doing fun things together. Being a newlywed, i take all this advice in for sure.

Essie Rae iHeartPrettyPolish said...

Great post! We would normally go to our own tv's after the kids went to bed and not too long ago we decided to watch together. We are now watching Breaking Bad on Netflix and are having a great time together. And I don't miss my reality shows as much as I thought I would:) Marriage can get into a rut sometimes and it's nice to communicate and acknowledge it - and change it up.

Big Pitt Stop said...

It must be working! You both looked great this weekend.

boo4baby said...

Love this post! After 25 years of marriage, we have found that we have had to have these "wake up" moments from time to time. So thankful that God shows us gently when that time is. I've enjoyed perusing through your blog. I feel like I've made a new friend today.